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Ashley Or
Founder, MABC, LPC
"The way couples begin a discussion about a problem—how you present an issue and how your partner responds to you—is absolutely critical.”
Dr. John Gottman
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Certifications
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Masters in Biblical Counseling from Dallas Theological Seminary
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Certified Prepare and Enrich Instructor
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Completed Level 3 Training from The Gottman Institute
My Approach
Coming to therapy might seem uncomfortable at first. While it does take courage to create change, success is possible. I have gotten to hear so many stories of redemption: marriages that seemed beyond hope gaining incredible intimacy; people whose lives have been riddled
with anxiety finally start to take control. It is possible and I believe you can
do it. The road may not be easy but it is worth it.
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My approach is grounded in Cognitive Behavioral therapy and attachment
theory. I am level three Gottman trained and incorporate this heavily into
couples work. My specialties include infidelity, couples work, interracial
couples, codependency, anxiety, pospartum depression/anxiety, and
missionary/church worker care.
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To know more about me, I am an interracially married, youth pastor's wife,
and mother of three boys. I enjoy reading, writing, trying new recipes,
learning new cultures, drinking fancy coffee and deep conversation.
Whether you are struggling or just want to learn more about yourself, I
would love to get to know you!
What is the Gottman Method?
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Dr. John Gottman began his research in the 70's. He spent hours observing what behaviors work in relationships and what doesn't. It wasn't long before the research supported his ability to predict divorce with a 93% success rate. Once he met and married his wife, Dr. Julie Gottman (a clinician), they established the Gottman Institute, a research based approach on marriage counseling.
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When couples come into the therapy room, often they're confused. They know something isn't working but it's hard to put a finger on what that something is. I've found the Gottman Method provides structure and direction for clients. The comprehensive online assessment provides an overview of where strengths and growth areas are for each couple and the interventions are straightforward and clear.
It isn't a lack of conflict that makes a healthy marriage but effective communication through conflict. It's my goal as a therapist to provide a space for each partner to feel safe, heard, and more attached to each other through healthy communication.